How to Use Crystals to Connect With Your Divine Feminine Energy

The divine feminine energy resides within us all – male and female. Whilst this energy was once freely and openly accessed, over time, our ability to connect with it has been eroded. Held back by the mores and restrictions of patriarchal societies and the pressures of our modern lives. But reconnecting with this sacred energy and its abundant power is absolutely possible. There are near-infinite ways to do this, but one of the easiest, most satisfying ways to get reacquainted with your divine feminine is through the use of crystals.

Crystals have been used for thousands of years for healing, sacred reflection, protection, boosting intuition, and connecting with the higher planes. Whether you’re completely new to the magic of crystals or you welcomed them into your life many years ago, keep reading to find out how to use them to welcome home your divine feminine.

How to Choose Your Crystals for Feminine Energy

It’s easier than you think – partly because it’s a two-way street. A crystal chooses you as much as you choose it! Perhaps you’re visually drawn to a single stone within a whole bowl of similarly-looking pieces; you’re compelled to reach out to touch it. This is the crystal for you.

Choosing crystals for divine feminine energy

Another way, try running your hand gently over a selection of crystals or dipping your fingers into a tub of stones. Then, if one seems to stick to your skin, it’s selected you as its keeper. Trust your instincts. If you connect with a stone, or if holding or touching one brings a sense of peace, light, or even the feeling of a loved one being close by – it’s the one for you. 

Connecting with Your Crystal

The act of connecting with your chosen crystal is a beautiful way to awaken your divine feminine energy. There are many ways to do so. Be guided by your intuition, and do what feels right to you.

Try sitting quietly, simply holding your crystal gently in your hand. Relax, and try to clear your mind. Then as your mind drifts, concentrate on the crystal you’re holding. How does it feel, and any feelings or sensations you’re experiencing in response. In your mind, ask your crystal to work with you in the service of your highest good. If you like, you can ask it to help you with something specific, such as helping you to feel more at peace or to better focus on a goal you’ve set. This is known as ‘programming’ your crystal.

You may wish to keep your crystal close to you throughout the day, perhaps by placing it beside you on your desk as you work or tucking it into a pocket.

The 7 Best Crystals to Embrace Your Divine Feminine Energy

While all crystals are special and have powerful attributes, there are some that may be particularly helpful if you’d like to tap into your divine feminine energy. Here are 7 crystals to try connecting with and how each can promote wellness and assist you in finding your path.



In Sanskrit, rubies are known as the king of gems: ratnaraj. They are extremely powerful crystals linked to protection, passion, devotion, and love, with great restorative attributes.

All of these things are also connected to the divine feminine, with its multi-faceted focus on nurturing, allure, deep hidden knowledge, unconditional love, and gentle power.  Ruby imparts vigor and passion for life. It can help to overcome feelings of lethargy and remove negative energies that may be standing in your way. The crystal amps up sexual energy and is great for accessing your inner, fiery goddess!

The best parts of the body on which to place or wear ruby are on the finger, ankle, or heart.

Rose Quartz

Rose quartz
Rose Quartz

Ruby and rose quartz perfectly illustrate the many attributes of the divine feminine and how many different (often seemingly contradictory) traits exist harmoniously within the goddess. Rose quartz is the stone of romantic love, deep peace, and healing.

This crystal is calming and can help return a sense of balance, especially after a difficult or traumatic event. It’s also the stone of self-love and can be used to release past hurts and heartbreaks.

To attract healthy, loving relationships – or to promote healing and unconditional love in existing ones – place rose quartz in the upper right-hand corner of a room. In feng shui, this is the position of love and relationships.



This crystal is inherently linked to the sacred feminine cycle. It’s calming, offers balance, and helps us to connect with our divine feminine intuition and higher knowledge. Moonstone has long been used to help an individual develop or enhance their psychic or clairvoyant abilities.

Moonstone is known as the crystal of new beginnings. In its connection to the moon, it suggests the waxing and waning nature of periods of our lives and how letting the old go is vital for the emergence of the new.

The crystal is inherently linked to feminine energy and can be used to balance male-female energies in both sexes to bring balance and peace. Moonstone is most effective when worn as a ring or placed on the relevant body part. The forehead for those wishing to have a spiritual experience or the heart to calm emotions, for example. This beautiful stone is particularly beneficial in alleviating the symptoms of PMS and helping with pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding.


Selenite to cleanse crystals used for feminine energy.

Known as the angel stone, Selenite has great power. It can be used to identify our higher meaning and soul’s purpose – and to help us on our path in this regard. Connecting with this crystal by meditating with the stone is likely to be very effective and bring about a profound sense of peace. Selenite is a perfect choice for those wishing to welcome their divine feminine energy home. It can be used to bring elements of the subconscious to the front of our consciousness, so we can understand our motivations and hidden feelings to make beneficial changes to our lives.

A potent protector, Selenite can be used to create a protective grid around your home to promote a peaceful atmosphere. It’s also a great stone for clearing mental confusion or to aid indecisiveness and allow you to see the big picture.



This crystal is known as the stone of successful love. Emerald is linked to fertility, unity, unconditional love, and integrity. Because of this it can be used to enhance romantic partnerships and friendships, keeping these unions in beautiful balance and harmony. It stimulates cooperation and effective expression – key to its promotion of positive partnerships.

Emerald is recognized as supporting wisdom, having regenerative powers, and aiding its bearer in living and enjoying life to the very fullest. 

The Greek goddess of love, Aphrodite, was linked to emerald, as was her Roman counterpart, Venus. In Hindu mythology, the crystal is closely associated with Annapurna, the goddess of nourishment and food, while the ancient near-Eastern mother goddess Astarte was also strongly associated with this crystal.

Emerald often works well in conjunction with other crystals. If you wish, try wearing (or otherwise pairing) it with ruby or a type of quartz.

Red Jasper

Red Jasper stones on a tray

Red Jasper is powerfully nurturing and intrinsically aligned with motherhood and all the beautiful nurturing energy of the divine feminine. To this end, it may be especially beneficial for pregnant women and new moms. It’s very useful for aiding dream recall when placed beneath a pillow at bedtime and for calming unsettled emotions. For the latter, simply holding or gently rubbing the stone can bring relief.

It is also good for alleviating stress, grounding and balancing your energy, boosting positivity, and bringing courage to the bearer. It aids focus, increases creativity, and helps with spiritual healing.

This crystal is a great choice for those wishing to set a strong intention. First, simply hold your crystal in your hand and think of your intention and the first step you need to take. Then you finish with saying your intention out loud, and, if possible, complete this first step within the next day or two.



Known as the Artists’ Stone, Amazonite promotes inspiration and creativity. It’s also a crystal that can be effectively used to build self-love, see the truth clearly, and foster a sense of determination.

As a crystal for connecting with elements of your divine feminine, amazonite is perfect. This is because it helps to align your intuition with your ‘logical’ thinking side, bringing both into harmony. Amazonite can also be used to alleviate worry and allow you to see both sides of a situation, make the right decision, or take the right path.

It is also a wonderful stone to meditate with. Hold it in your hand or on your lap during the session. Alternatively, lie down with the crystals next to you aligned to the chakra points throughout your body.

How to Cleanse Your Crystal

For some people who use crystals, cleansing them regularly is important. That way you can re-energize them and disperse any build-up of negative energy they may have accumulated. Cleansing a crystal can also form part of an intention-setting ritual.

There are many ways to cleanse a crystal – again, allow your intuition to come into play. Many people cleanse their stones by simply leaving them to bathe in direct sun or moonlight for a few hours. Alternatively, you could submerge them in salt water for twenty-four hours and then leave them to air dry, or rinse them in running water for a minute and allow them to dry in the fresh air. Note, however, that using water for cleansing isn’t suitable for brittle stones, which could erode.

Using Crystals for Chakra Work

Chakras are energy points in the body, and there are seven main ones. When placed on the chakras, crystals can help to support and promote the body’s natural and healing energy, and remove any blockages present that could be causing problems for the individual. Check out our guide to chakra healing with crystals here.

The seven key chakras are as follows:

  • Root. Located at the base of the spine, this chakra is associated with feeling grounded and independent.
  • Sacral. Found just below the navel, the sacral chakra is linked to well-being, pleasure, and acceptance.
  • Solar plexus. This chakra is at the base of the ribcage and aligns with confidence, self-esteem, and self-control.
  • Heart. Located at the center of the chest, the heart chakra is associated with love, inner peace, and joy.
  • Throat. Found at the base of the throat, this chakra is linked with self-expression and communication.
  • Third eye. Above and between the brows is the location of the third eye chakra, and it’s aligned with intuition and decision-making.
  • Crown. At the top of the head, this chakra is connected to spirituality and a sense of connection.

Using Crystals to Cionnect with Feminine Energy Every Day

As part of your practice of connecting with your divine feminine energy, appreciate, communicate, and work with your crystals every day. As well as carrying your chosen stones or meditating with them, there are lots of other ways you can bring crystals into your daily life.

Why not create a special space, or sanctuary, in your home using crystals? To do so, clear the space of clutter, and let some fresh air flow through it for a little while. Next, you could also light some scented candles and gather some special items within this little area. Then, choose the crystals to use. Rose quartz is a great option for its peace-giving qualities. Place each crystal where it will catch and reflect the light and where you can appreciate looking at it.

You may also wish to incorporate crystals into your self-care routines to further benefit from their energy. Placing a crystal in your bath water, and leaving it there as you soak, is a lovely way of connecting deeply with your chosen stone. Another possibility is if you enjoy practicing yoga, keep a crystal or two on your yoga mat to enhance your session.

However, you choose to use your crystals, taking the time to welcome them into your life and appreciating their presence every day is a wonderful way to enhance your overall well-being. This can also help you on your journey of reawakening and bringing home your unique divine feminine energy.

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Melanie Smith

Melanie Smith is a freelance content and creative writer from Gloucestershire. She lives in a funny little cottage with her daughter and cat, The Magical Mr. Bobo. Her blog posts and articles on the subjects of tarot, crystal healing, holistic wellness, and parenting feature regularly in magazines and websites around the world.